How do the young and young-at-heart meet partners in 2017? The last time I was actively seeking companionship I was 18 and people met at clubs or pubs. It took time. There would be lingering and repeated eye contact, of the same-time-same-place variety. If you saw the same person a few weeks in a row, you would venture conversation. You’d swap numbers and exchange messages (which took a very long time to type as you had to repeatedly press a number key to generate a letter). Smartphones? Just a figment of the imagination.
I had heard of Tinder, apparently it was easy to use, so that was the app I started with. First hurdle – set your parameters as the following questions zip through your head. How old is too old, and how young is too young? What is socially acceptable? Am I a milf? How close is too close? Can I be bothered to match with someone who may live 50km away? What if I miss out on someone amazing? Would anyone swipe me right? Finger trembling… GO!
I saw it all. Profiles with no information; profiles where it is difficult to ascertain which chap the profile belonged to as all the photographs were of groups of people; profiles of body parts; very very very occasionally, someone that caught my eye. Men of Tinder: For a higher rate of matches, girls like to see you (and only you). Put something about yourself on your profile. Feel free to crack a joke. Message us when you match and then continue the conversation!
Swipe right to like someone. Hope they swipe you too… how the heart leaps when the little jingle indicates there has been activity… It’s a Match! The questions start racing through your brain once again! What do you say? Well, the first time, I chickened out and waited. The chap was good enough to contact me first, and much to my delight, I had matched with someone as chatty as myself.
Until next time,
Misty K xoxo